A Bengali wedding (Bengali: ?????, ????? ) includes many rituals and ceremonies that can take several days. In many cases, it starts with the ceremony Cabin (official wedding registration and presents Denmohor or Mahr) and ends with the ceremony Bou Bhat (wedding reception, day after marriage, usually arranged by the groom's family). Although the rituals differ from those of Bengal districts, among Hindus, it is usually classified into two: Ghoti and Bangal rituals.
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Arranging marriage
Traditional marriages are arranged by Ghotoks (matchmaker), who are generally friends or relatives of a spouse, or sometimes just a professional matchmaking. The Ghotoks facilitate the couple's introduction to the wedding guests, and are given a special gift called Ghotokbidae (lit., "biding goodbye to Ghotoks") if the alliance is agreed and the marriage is realized. Families traditionally seek matches of their children from the same caste, religion, and social status. In the case of matchmaking, if the 'compatibility' factors mentioned fit perfectly, only then the couple is considered a raj-jotak (ideal match). Currently (such as arranged marriages are not mandatory), couples often choose their own spouse after courtship and understand each other well, while still giving some consideration to traditional 'compatibility' factors, but not entirely consistent with the conventional notion of both. partners become "ideal partner". In modern English, the unregulated alliance of Ghotok is called a "love match" and is based more on the preferences and desires of the partners than the strict traditional norms.
After the arrangement is done, the wedding planning itself is done by the parents. They usually start planning the wedding venue a few months ahead. The bride typically participates actively in shopping for her wedding clothes and gifts.
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Paka-dekha or Patri-Patro dekha
Although the couple currently find each other according to their own choice, the official engagement must follow from the official approval given by the family elders of both sides.
Through a ceremony called 'paka-dekha' (in the case of Ghotis) or patri-patro, is usually observed by Bangals, this alliance is formalized so that the last marriage preparation can proceed with the belief that it is indeed intentional and guaranteed to take place. The deck is celebrated on the day when the two families meet in the home of each party to fix the end date and time of the day (marriage), and entertain any demands made by the groom's family in order to ensure that the future of the bride is guaranteed. Sometimes the priest can also lead, document the marriage specifications for legal/governmental purposes, and organize the details on paper (or in digital form at this time) and sign it from the oldest guardians of both parties today. Videography or static photography can be used to record details for posterity in lieu of paper documentation.
After the legal formalities, it's time for all to enjoy the sweet rasgullas and 'misti-doi' (yoghurt), treats generally served by the groom's side.
Following decades, the public announcement of a "good alliance" was made in the areas of both parties. Any such announcement is preceded by a snail's trumpet trumpet (blowing it like a trumpet, or a kind of intruding instrument such as a trumpet sounded, and an ululation (called ululudhvanis ) made loudly by the elder married Woman, The time frame in which the announcement such a marriage is usually made six to eighteen months before the wedding, but in any case at the latest by marriage if possible.Therefore, one of the ways casual observers are aware of a wedding reception in Bengal is ongoing, this unique vocalization made by women present.
Turmeric ceremony
It begins with the ceremony of Nandi mukh, when a priest, a pandit, or sometimes only the oldest male family member or their representative pays tribute to the ancestors of the late father's parents 'side' through an elaborate pooja ritual, them to bless the next couple. Nandi Mukh is a prayer in which large families take the blessings of the deceased ancestors. This ritual is followed by a turmeric ceremony or gaye holud (Bengali: ???????? gaee holud , lit. "yellowing body") occurs before the wedding ceremony. There is a turmeric ceremony for the bride and another for the groom. For gaye holud brides, the bridegroom's family - except for the men themselves - are traveling in the procession to the bride's house. They carry bridal gowns/wedding clothes, some wedding decorations including turmeric paste (which lightly touches the groom's body), candy/sweets and gifts. They also take great Rohu fish decorated as brides. After two 'yellowing ceremonies', the bride and groom bathe in the water women take from the waterways (Ganges river, if possible) early in the morning. There are local variations in this tradition, such as providing certain fish to those responsible for cooking, and therefore the best time to deliver fresh fish to the groom's family.
This procession has traditionally centered on sisters and bride friends, and pasta is prepared by five married women called 'Eyo-stree', and they traditionally all wear matching clothes, usually orange. The bride sits on top of the nora-heel, and the women walk around her, dousing the water of Ganga (or other local drinking water) toward the bride.
The turmeric paste is applied to the bride's skin by her friends. This is said to soften the skin, but also coloring its distinctive yellow color that gives the name of this ceremony. The candy is then fed to the bride by all involved, one by one. Of course there is a party for the guests. Married women may now also mix with turmeric paste.
Wedding ceremony
The wedding ceremony (Bengali: ????? or bibaho / bie ) follows Gaye Holud ( bright, "turmeric applied to the skin") ceremony. The wedding ceremony is arranged by the bride's family. The groom, along with his friends and family (Borjatri), has traditionally arrived later in the evening.
The groom is sent by car from the bride's side and she climbs into it with two older male relatives, one from the bride's side and another from her own family (called Borkorta) and also the youngest male member of his family dressed as a groom, (he called Neet drill similar to "best man" in western tradition). Before leaving for the wedding, the groom is blessed by his mother and he formally seeks permission to start a new life with a "better half" soon. For the bridal hindus the bride has traditionally not attended marriage, because it is believed to have a negative impact on the marriage life of her son. Instead, he waited at home with several other women for his son and son-in-law ('Bouma'). But the groom's mother in a Muslim wedding went with the groom and took her to Bride's house. When the bridegroom arrives at a Hindu ceremony, female relatives of the bride's women greet her with the sound of a snail shell and a beneficial reprieve. Then the bride's mother ceremonially washes the wheels of the groom's car with Gangga water, feeds her candy and admires it through a 'Bor-boron' ceremony.
In a hindu ceremony the bride's family then gives gifts to the groom in wedding attire, which includes 'jore' (silk scarves), 'dhoti' and 'topor', headdress made of pith and zari. The groom should wear these items during the wedding ritual. It should also be noted that the wood required for the yajna's wedding is carried by the bridegroom's family, which signifies the authoritative role of the maker over the whole ritual.
However, unlike Muslim ceremonies, the groom's mother provides the bride with jewelry and sare and then she turns to her wedding and jewelry saree. Then the groom and his father and along with the bride's father then meet to sign the official mahr contract in a ritual giving the bride a certain amount of money set as her dowry. In the hindu ceremony there are purohits of both families and marriages are performed in the form of dialogue between them using the Sanskrit spell. While the groom participates in the prime wedding ritual from the beginning, the bride joins long after she arrives accompanied by her brothers (if any) and friends, who are seated in wooden chairs called 'piri' for the ceremony. This ritual epitomizes the medieval idea of ​​thinking of daughters as a burden to the family, even though it is now practiced only as a formality, and girls are given compassion equivalent to the given son. This is followed by When paak, where the bride surrounds the bride seven times, while she remains sitting on the 'piri' while covering her face with betel leaves.
In a Muslim ceremony, the bride sits together with family and friends of the same sex each bride with a Hujur who asks both if they accept the other as their partner and if they say "kobul" (Qabul in Arabic means I receive) then they sign the marriage document and officially marry and then sit next to each other and ask for blessings from their family and their God. Then the music starts to play and the food is served and the ladies mainly from the groom and the groom from the family dances and take pictures and talk to the guests.
Next comes Shubhodrishti, when the bride finally removes the leaves from her face and their eyes meet. This ritual is accompanied by ululation and blowing of clamshells. This marriage is led by the eldest bride's sister, who performs Kanya (Bengali [- & gt; 5]: ????????????? konnasomprodan [- & gt; 6] comes on. " give the bride ").
Finally comes the Sindurdaan, when the bride covers the forehead of the bride (maang) with sindoor. That's when they are considered socially married and one.
After putting the sindoor, the bride's forehead is covered by a sari, called 'lojja bostro', which is given by the groom himself.
The 'mala boldol' or the wreath exchange gives marriage (seven times around the fire yajna or Agni dev, God of Fire). The ends of the bridal gown and the bride are bound in a knot called 'jor bandha' or 'gat bandhan,' and this is done by the bride's brother, while the bridegroom helps the couple in offering the khoi anjali God of fire. Furthermore, a large party called 'Preetibhoj' ensues where all the guests are present. After all the previous rituals were completed, the couple sat side by side and could not open a knot where they were tied together. Then follow the bashorghor, which is an informal and friendly interaction between younger relatives and friends from both sides, and continues throughout the night (similar to a western "wedding reception"). Elders usually do not attend this event. Basor Raat starts after midnight if the wedding ceremony is over at night. Most Bengali Hindu wedding events are held at night.
The next morning (preferably before noon), the couple went from marriage to the groom's house to Ghotis, though for the Bangals, "Bashi Biya" or "Chaturtha-mangal" was held, and the couple went to the groom's house after the night. This is known as a vidaai ceremony, and the bride makes a rice offering called "Kanakanjali" for her mother, thereby cleansing all and all debts she has undergone during her years at her father's house - even though "Kanakanjali" is not done. in every Bengali marriage. While it symbolizes the end of the celebration for the bride's family, it marks the beginning of the second phase of the celebration to be hosted by the groom's family. Upon arriving home, the couple was welcomed by the groom's mother and all the other members, in a ritual called 'Bouboron'. Then the elders made a golden gift for the bride. The bride is then asked to walk with her feet dipped in Alta on the sari, and her footprints are considered to be Lakshmi's possession that enters the groom's home. He was then shown a kitchen, a warehouse and all the other things that marked the prosperity, riches, and happiness of his new family. Today it is also known as "Kaalratri," and above it the bride is not allowed to see each other, because Kaalratri is the night when Behula's husband is bitten by a snake, as stated in Manasamangal Kavya.
After "Kaalratri", when the bride was greeted by the groom in the morning "Bou Bhaat", a ritual called "Bhaat Kapor" was initiated by the groom where she gave gifts to the bride with essential accessories of married women, saris and others. luck goods on a silver plate (these items are given by the husband alone and not by the bride-in-law); currently they also use other metals such as brass etc. This signifies that the groom will therefore take care of all the needs and requirements of his bride from that day onwards; this also signifies the dominance of male individuals in old vedic societies. After receiving all these items from her husband, the bride takes blessings from her husband and therefore initiates the "Bou Bhaat" ritual.
Bou Bhaat
The next day, that is, the second day of the bride in her new home is celebrated as Bou Bhaat on this day, she serves Rice with Ghee to all her in-laws during lunch. The evening was celebrated as a reception party, where all the distant relatives along with the close ones from the groom's side were invited and introduced to the bride. Members of the 'Konyajatri' bride 's family also attended the reception with' tatwo '(gift of clothes, sweets, jewelry, and all other important things for the bride and her mother - in - law). A big party done called 'Preetibhoj'- This is a gala dinner to introduce the Bride to the community and the whole family. In the past, dinner was prepared by his own family. Candies are made at home by 'Vien'. Friends and neighbors are usually volunteers to share food, which is usually done on banana leaves. But now Catering Service has taken over the whole initiative.
Phul Shojja
In the ceremony of flower beds (Bengali: ??????? ful shÃÆ''jja , lit. "sleeping flowers"), the bride wears a lot floral ornaments served by the bride's family, and their wedding bed decorated with flowers by the groom's family. This is the night of perfection.
Eight days after marriage, the couple visited the bride's house and spent three nights there. It is accompanied by endless parties, and the opening of 'Gatbandhan' which has been tied to their wedding day.
The antara The Bengali of Sylheti asal, "fira-jatra" or "fira-zatra" in the ritual in the dikenal sebagai.
Shubhochuni Satyanarayan Puja
On the eighth day of the marriage, Satyanarayan puja is done by the groom's family, where the newlyweds, in their wedding attire, are blessed by purohit and prayers offered to bless the couple with happy families. The couple then went to Oshtomongola.
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See also
- Hindu Hindu wedding
- Gaye Holud
- Bangladesh Culture
- West Bengal Culture
References
Source of the article : Wikipedia
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